We leave for Disney Wold in like 17 days. I'm excited to have some time off of work, but still have not worked up my urges to go. Now I am thinking that we are wasting this money and there are so many other things we should be using it for. I mean we are trying to get this house, and that will mean rearranging our budget since we wont have that extra money coming in. Matthew wants to go to Hawaii next year, and I want to go home, which wont be that expensive since I have a lot of miles stacked up and more on the way. So we will prolly have a free trip.
But the big thing is that Matthew and I had a pretty serious discussion about kids. Matthew is ready right now. We are not ready, I mean I want them, but we cant afford kids right now. And besides I want to be with MAtthew just the two of us for awhile. He knows and he is waiting for me to be ready. plus we think that people will freak out, since they have a tendency to do that. So here is one more thing I have to deal with cuz people will not think its a good idea and lecture us and blah, blah, blah...
So that is all for now.
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If you wait to have kids until you can afford it, you will never have kids. It is probably a good idea to wait until you've made a decision on the house, though. If your budget is more stable, you'll feel like you have more information and more comfortable making a decision. (Funny thing is, it's not usually the big stuff - like vactions - that you waste your money on. It's things like eating out every day and buying DVDs every week that really screw you.)
The one thing you don't want to do is to base your decision on what other people want or think you should do. Advice is great, sounding boards are great, but the decision is yours and Matt's alone. Ask other people how they felt about the timing of their kids and see if their considerations apply to you. Cassie would be a wonderful person to talk to about this, as they are a few years ahead of where you guys are right now.
This is from Julie:
You are married now, its up to you and Matt to decide when you are ready. Nobody else. Amanda is right, if money is your reason for not having kids YOU NEVER WILL. One thing to think about is if you want alone time with matt now or after you retire. If you have kids earlier, before you retire they are outy and you can have fun then. If you have them later, then you are old and decrepid by the time they leave the house but you had alone time when you were young. I would seriously get a dog and/or cat first though. They are good practice and may get Matt through until you are ready. And get a house too so you have more room. And plan out a budget in advance to see if you are comfortable giving certain things up like HBO :( But don't let the finances stop you cause no matter when you do it, it will be a financial sacrifice. Unless you win the lottery. I would give my left leg to be going to DIsney World with you guys, but I decided to give that up to have a kid. Yes as sad as that is, Disney World was a factor when I was deciding if I was ready. So now we are just going next year and mom can babysit. But if you arent' ready to give up the freedom of doing what you want when you want and the possibility of more school then I would wait. I'm sure Matt will compromise with you on the timing, you just have to decide for yourself and work with him. Make sure he has thought everything through too. I think you may also want another year or so of living together to get more settled with finances, chores, your relationship now that you are together 24/7, etc. Oh and GET THE DOG TRAINED BEFORE YOU HAVE THE KID OR YOU WILL GO INSANE. That's just the Grill's opinions.
From your MIL:
Emily, I do believe I raised at least one child right and Julie gave some sage advice. She has been there and is doing that. As far as Disney World goes, I understand why right now you would rather go home, BUT I truly believe that once you get to the Mouse House, you will love it and will become infected with the Disney bug. Ask Brian, he did. I also fully understand about the financial thing. Disney does not have to cost an arm and a leg. The resort you are staying at is geared towards the military and things will not cost what it will cost us folks who stay at actual Disney hotels. You never know, I have been known to slip $$ into my kids' pockets when they least expect it. In other words, Emily, don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy this trip. Its a special time with your hubby FINALLY turning 21 and he is sooooo anxious to share Disney dreams with his beloved. I know this for a fact. Its now time for you to "wish upon that star" and add to your wonderful memories with Matt.
A DREAM IS A WISH YOUR HEART MAKES
A dream is a wish your heart makes
When you're fast asleep
In dreams you will lose your heartaches
Whatever you wish for, you keep
Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling through
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
The dream that you wish will come true.
from Cinderella (1950)
Welcome to our Disney family, Emily!
Laurie
I wonder if the way Matt feels about Disney World is the way you feel about Christmas...
Thank you everybody. I have the best family in the world, Disney and otherwise. :)
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